I have overcome social anxiety

you can beat social anxiety

Ok, let’s start with the one of the most amazing statements concerning my life – I have overcome social anxiety.

I used to be awkward, self-conscious, unsure of what to say and how to act, constantly mulling over past instances of my little, personal catastrophes, alternately ashamed of myself and livid at the world.

Now I’m a happy, smiling guy, looking forward to meeting people, self-assured and funny, with an ever widening circle of friends and people I care about.

It wasn’t an easy or fast process (it took around 2,5 years), but the results are amazing. If you showed the present me to the guy I was just 3 years ago, he would either cry or go into catatonic state from disbelief.

I never really believed that I could pull it off, that I could be just normal, contented person. I have always felt bad about myself, always felt fundamentally different (that meant worse) than all the people around me. The negative thoughts were so ingrained I couldn’t even picture myself being surrounded by other people and just having a good time – it was simply beyond my imagination.

The only thing I regret now, is not going through the process of change earlier. The process started when I was 27. It doesn’t mean I haven’t tried earlier. I did try – read books, went to see psychiatrists, tried to find help in online forums, searched for some magical solution. I guess it’s only testament to how difficult it can be to deal with social phobia and how intractable the problem can remain.

But I did it. I did it better than I could ever dream of. And I want you to believe that you can do it as well. The amazing experiences and pure joy of being alive when you get rid of social anxiety are too good for you to waste even one more day being miserable, sad and overwhelmed with negative thoughts.

And believe me – I was MISERABLE. When I look at the photos of me ‘before’, the face I see seems to belong to a stranger. It’s sad, strangely distorted, just unpleasant to look at. And I’m not even talking about me being anxious on the photo – I just looked like that all the time.

So if I could do it, you can do it as well. I wasn’t just a bit shy or a little introverted. I had full social anxiety, with all the symptoms and suffering. And yet I succeeded. Now when I talk to strangers, I just feel curiosity. It’s been so incredibly liberating.

I’m just free. And you can be as well.

I want to use this blog to describe how I did it and how I felt at the time, in hope of helping those who still fight social phobia. I can assure you that:

  • It’s perfectly curable
  • If you put the work in, the results can be stunning.

There is no magical formula, no magic affirmation to repeat every day or pill that will do the work for you. It’s you who has to go through with the hard work, withstand setbacks (because you’ll encounter them) and be persistent.

But if you do, you will transform your life.

And this is what I wish you.

If you have any questions, please ask them in the comments section, I will be happy to answer them.

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